Will Having a Baby Ruin My Life?

You just took a pregnancy test.  Time seems to move slowly as you wait for the results.  When you look down and see those positive lines, your mind starts racing. Your first instinct is to think of all the things that could go wrong or how your unplanned pregnancy will ruin your life. Whether it’s doubts about being able to graduate from high school and go to college, finish your degree, concerns about being able to advance in your new career, if you will be able to afford to care for your child, or questioning the impact to your new relationship…your unplanned pregnancy can cause a torrent of concerns.

Stop and breathe. You don’t need to borrow worry from tomorrow when you are living in today. After taking time to stop and slow your racing mind, you will be able to think through everything with a clearer mind.

Will having a baby make completing school take a little longer? Potentially, but that doesn’t mean you cannot finish. Ask anyone who has walked through more of life than you and they will tell you that the hardest things in life always are the sweetest and the most rewarding.

Having a child is the biggest and potentially scariest think you may ever do but it will be 100% worth it. For every hard moment you will have five beautiful ones, for every moment you have where you want to quit, you have a million more where you couldn’t imagine a second without your little one. They will be the best part of your day, your proudest accomplishment, and your deepest love.

Eknath Easwara puts it perfectly, “Nothing really worth having comes quickly and easily. If it did I doubt that we would ever grow.”

Having a child will take sacrifice and work….you might have to work a little harder in school to finish, put in some extra time to get that promotion, or work even harder to make your relationship work, but in the end when everything works out you will be able to look back and see that you succeeded against all odds. You will have this little human who was looking at you the whole time seeing that hard work does pay off, that you are willing to do whatever to succeed, and they will see that their mom is truly their hero.

Will it be hard? Yes, but the sacrifices you made will be worth it. For help navigating your pregnancy decisions (from abortion, adoption to parenting), please reach out to Prestonwood Pregnancy Center here.  We offer free sonograms, guidance, education, resources and more.