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Unplanned Pregnancy: How to Tell Your Family and Friends

Unplanned Pregnancy: How to Tell Your Family and Friends

Finding out you’re pregnant when you weren’t expecting it can feel overwhelming. Whether you’re uncertain, scared, or even conflicted, one of the hardest steps can be figuring out how to share the news with your family and friends (especially if you’re not sure how they’ll react). Whether you’re feeling nervous about judgment, unsure of their reactions, or simply still processing things yourself, know this: You’re not alone, and there’s not one “right” way to share your news. 

Here are some thoughts and tips to help you navigate these conversations with grace and clarity: 

  1. Take Your Time 

Before talking to anyone else, take a moment to breathe. You may be feeling a wave of emotions including shock, fear, confusion, guilt or grief. All of those feelings are valid and it’s okay not to have all the answers right now. 

Instead of rushing into a conversation, take time to think and consider speaking with a trusted counselor or one of our client advocates to help you sort through your thoughts. Anything you share is confidential. 

  1. Decide Who to Tell First

Start with someone you trust. That might be a parent, a sibling, a close friend, a mentor, or a spiritual advisor. Even one supportive voice can make a huge difference when you’re carrying big news. 

Sometimes it helps to write down a list of people and think through how each might respond. Begin with those who are most likely to be kind and calm and build your circle of support from there. 

  1. Think Through What You Want to Say

You don’t need to have every detail figured out before you talk. It’s okay to say, “I’m still processing this.” Just be honest and speak from the heart. 

Here’s a simple way to begin: 

“I need to tell you something important. I’m pregnant. I didn’t plan it, and I’m still figuring things out. I wanted to tell you because you matter to me.” 

  1. Brace Yourself for Different Reactions

It’s natural to hope for understanding, but sometimes people react out of fear or surprise. They may say things they don’t mean. Their initial reaction isn’t always their final one! People often need time, just like you did, to come to terms with the news. If someone reacts with shock or disappointment, take a deep breath. Let them have their feelings but don’t take on their emotions as your own. 

  1. Bring Support 

You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re worried about telling someone, consider bringing a trusted friend, counselor, or pregnancy center advocate with you. Sometimes just having someone by your side gives you the strength to say what you need to say. 

  1. Believe It: You Will Get Through This 

An unexpected pregnancy is part of your story, but it’s not the whole story. You are brave for facing this moment and you have our support. Whether you’re looking for someone to talk to, help with how to start the conversation, or just a safe place to think through your next steps, we’re here. 

Reach out to us today to schedule a free, confidential appointment with someone who truly cares and is ready to walk alongside you.  

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